HOW I GOT MY MAN AND HOW YOU CAN GET YOURS

Okay.  I’m going to need you to be completely impervious to what I’m about to say.  But at the same time I need you to be able to absorb what I’m about to say.  Every day I hear and see women that are desperate to know how attaining a healthy and godly romantic relationship is possible in today’s generation of new age culture, do it if it feels good, and quick fix microwave society.  I’m sure you guys are aware of the best-selling books and movies like Think Like A Man and He’s Just Not That Into You.  But, I’m about to give you the real skinny.  The holy version.  This advice is based off of theory coming into contact with experience…and by that I mean God’s Word applied to my life.  When I was single I used to read and watch these movies so intently hoping to catch the much needed information I had missed all those lonely years.  But the truth is God already gave us women the ultimate playbook.  You want to know what it is?  The Bible.  I know you’re probably rolling your eyes at your computer screen right now, but it’s the truth.  And to stop you from rolling your eyes I’m going to tell you why.

One year ago, I was single.  I witnessed God work a miracle in my life when I handed over EVERY SINGLE ASPECT OF MY LIFE over to Him.  But prior to that I was like many other females.  I was lonely, bitter, confused and unsatisfied.  I’m not saying that all single females feel this way, but I’m telling you that I did.  I had been single for seven years, and hadn’t really had a serious relationship.  And to be honest, I look back now and I wouldn’t have been ready for it anyway.  I had adopted the belief that I had to follow these worldly rules to get a man.  One thing I’ve noticed about God is that his playbook is easier.  I don’t have to wait 90 days to have sex with a guy in order to be labeled in the potential wife category because God says I can’t do it at all.  And if any man goes against what God says the rules are, then there is no way God sent him to me anyway.  See, the real problem is women today don’t want to follow instructions.  Say you want to bake an apple pie.  You want it to look, smell and taste just like the picture.  But you don’t follow the instructions on the back of the box.  Then you have the audacity to be upset when the pie doesn’t turn out right.  Does that make any sense?  Of course not!  If you want it like the picture then you have got to follow the instructions.  If you want a godly man that only an omnipotent God can give you, then you have got to follow His instructions. 

Do you remember the story of Ruth in the bible?  That is one of my favorites.  God was able to bless Ruth with Boaz because even when she was oppressed with hardship Ruth decided she was going to follow the Lord no matter what.  She said to Naomi “for whither thou goest, I will go; and where thou lodgest, I will lodge; thy people shall be my people, and thy God will be my God”.  She was not playing around.  She took God very seriously.  And before you know it, she was gleaning in the field of her new boo.  Think about this.  Why would God give you a man to distract you away from Him, and you are already distracted from Him in your singleness?  Keep in mind that there are going to be mountains of distractions when you get married.  God’s gotta know that no matter what, just like Ruth, you’re all in.

So, with an attempt to stay on topic, you want to know what I did right?  I followed God’s playbook.  First and foremost, I made God my number one priority.  My Ace.  No man, woman, child, pet or anything else came before Him.  And for the three years I rededicated my life to God, He became my man.  He was and still is the most important thing in my life.  Secondly, I got serious about God.  Men are like sharks.  They can smell the energy on you.  They can smell when a woman is thirsty and will take whatever he puts out, and they can also tell when a woman is the real deal and serious about not compromising her beliefs and values to appease him. Which takes me to the third thing…  I did not compromise.  No matter how much I liked a man or what he said to me I just didn’t budge.  If the man contradicted what God said He was going to give me, it was on to the next one.  If I met a nice man but he was an atheist, he was out of there.  If I met a guy that believed in pre-marital sex he was a goner.  It was too easy, because I just did what God told me to do.  Until one day, I came across this amazing man that believed in Jesus Christ as his personal Savior and Lord.  This man pushed me closer to Christ and checked me when I stumbled.  It was like love at first sight…okay maybe not at first sight.  But after he finished getting on my nerves it was pretty darn close.  He took me on our first date and we were married two weeks later.  You see, I didn’t have to compromise, or follow any of these rules everyone else says us women have to follow because I followed God’s rules.  And think about it.  If anyone knows about a set of rules that are promised to work, it would be the one and only Alpha and Omega of the universe.  I believe that God moved so fast in my relationship to show me how He can bless something and perfect it when we invite Him, a perfect being, into it.

I’m telling you this because I want women out there to know that you don’t have to settle.  I know what it feels like to have game ran on you or be the jumpoff, but God didn’t create us to be those things.  He created us to be queens, beautiful and precious.  You desiring to be a wife is biblical.  You have that God given right and God wants to give it to you.  But, you have got to FOLLOW THE INSTRUCTIONS.  You have got to put God first.  You have got to follow God, wherever he tells you to go.  And before you know it, you will find yourself gleaning in the field of a man that God made just for you. J