One year ago, I was single.
I witnessed God work a miracle in my life when I handed over EVERY
SINGLE ASPECT OF MY LIFE over to Him. But
prior to that I was like many other females.
I was lonely, bitter, confused and unsatisfied. I’m not saying that all single females feel
this way, but I’m telling you that I did.
I had been single for seven years, and hadn’t really had a serious
relationship. And to be honest, I look
back now and I wouldn’t have been ready for it anyway. I had adopted the belief that I had to follow
these worldly rules to get a man. One
thing I’ve noticed about God is that his playbook is easier. I don’t have to wait 90 days to have sex with
a guy in order to be labeled in the potential wife category because God says I
can’t do it at all. And if any man goes
against what God says the rules are, then there is no way God sent him to me
anyway. See, the real problem is women
today don’t want to follow instructions.
Say you want to bake an apple pie.
You want it to look, smell and taste just like the picture. But you don’t follow the instructions on the
back of the box. Then you have the
audacity to be upset when the pie doesn’t turn out right. Does that make any sense? Of course not! If you want it like the picture then you have
got to follow the instructions. If you
want a godly man that only an omnipotent God can give you, then you have got to
follow His instructions.
Do you remember the story of Ruth in the bible? That is one of my favorites. God was able to bless Ruth with Boaz because
even when she was oppressed with hardship Ruth decided she was going to follow
the Lord no matter what. She said to
Naomi “for whither thou goest, I will go; and where thou lodgest, I will lodge;
thy people shall be my people, and thy God will be my God”. She was not playing around. She took God very seriously. And before you know it, she was gleaning in
the field of her new boo. Think about
this. Why would God give you a man to
distract you away from Him, and you are already distracted from Him in your
singleness? Keep in mind that there are
going to be mountains of distractions when you get married. God’s gotta know that no matter what, just
like Ruth, you’re all in.
So, with an attempt to stay on topic, you want to know what
I did right? I followed God’s
playbook. First and foremost, I made God
my number one priority. My Ace. No man, woman, child, pet or anything else
came before Him. And for the three years
I rededicated my life to God, He became
my man. He was and still is the most
important thing in my life. Secondly, I
got serious about God. Men are like sharks. They can smell the energy on you. They can smell when a woman is thirsty and
will take whatever he puts out, and they can also tell when a woman is the real
deal and serious about not compromising her beliefs and values to appease him.
Which takes me to the third thing… I did
not compromise. No matter how much I
liked a man or what he said to me I just didn’t budge. If the man contradicted what God said He was
going to give me, it was on to the next one.
If I met a nice man but he was an atheist, he was out of there. If I met a guy that believed in pre-marital
sex he was a goner. It was too easy,
because I just did what God told me to do.
Until one day, I came across this amazing man that believed in Jesus Christ
as his personal Savior and Lord. This
man pushed me closer to Christ and checked me when I stumbled. It was like love at first sight…okay maybe
not at first sight. But after he
finished getting on my nerves it was pretty darn close. He took me on our first date and we were married
two weeks later. You see, I didn’t have
to compromise, or follow any of these rules everyone else says us women have to
follow because I followed God’s
rules. And think about it. If anyone knows about a set of rules that are
promised to work, it would be the one and only Alpha and Omega of the
universe. I believe that God moved so
fast in my relationship to show me how He can bless something and perfect it
when we invite Him, a perfect being, into it.
I’m telling you this because I want women out there to know
that you don’t have to settle. I know
what it feels like to have game ran on you or be the jumpoff, but God didn’t
create us to be those things. He created
us to be queens, beautiful and precious.
You desiring to be a wife is biblical. You have that God given right and God wants
to give it to you. But, you have got to
FOLLOW THE INSTRUCTIONS. You have got to
put God first. You have got to follow
God, wherever he tells you to go. And
before you know it, you will find yourself gleaning in the field of a man that God
made just for you. J
